Crazy kids

Last night Katherine sang me to sleep.  It was 11:15pm and I had just decided that Nathaniel might be inclined to take a longish nap, and thus it might be worth retiring for the night.  He’s still very much in nap mode, sticking to cycles of about 1.5 hours.  In the last couple of days Katherine’s thrown out her normal schedule and has shown an amazing ability to entertain herself in her crib for long stretches of time.  Which is why, late at night, she was singing nonsense songs to herself in the room below mine, giving absolutely no indication of sleepiness.  I, meanwhile, was out in five minutes.

Erin

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Sydney

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Life with little ones

Laundry, and the reason for the laundry.  He’s starting to enjoy counter time when he’s awake, too, since he likes being near the action . . . and we like him away from Katherine’s energy.

In case I forgot that I was in a kid-filled household, Sophie the teething toy was a great reminder of that, as well as a good paperweight.

Miss Independent isn’t shy about letting us know when she wants to go out for a walk.

Sarah, your blanket is proving quite effective at keeping his hands occupied.  You have very effectively swaddled two Baby Penners!

And then there are the games.  Katherine beats me to the stairs, races to the top and into her room, and disappears.  The following ensues:

“Katherine?  Where’s my Katherine?  Katherine?”

Silence.

“Oh, Katherine, are you up here?”

Silence . . . and then, “No?”

One more minute of quiet and then she comes racing out from behind the curtain, like so:

Erin

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Some R&D needed here

In the modern quest for new ways to stay awake and boost energy we’ve tapped food, exercise, caffeine, and pharmaceuticals.  I’m wondering, though, when researchers will get around to trying to bottle whatever it is that little kids run on.  I’ve cared for small kids who could run all day on two carrot sticks and a glass of milk.  And then there are those times when kids seem to just stop sleeping.  Katherine has been awake, talking to herself, for hours each of the last several nights (from, say, 8-10pm and then again for a couple of hours in the morning), and today she talked all the way through her normal nap time.  She’s currently running on about the same sleep as her parents (who, thanks in part to Nathaniel, aren’t doing so hot on that front) and manifesting a lot more energy than the two of them combined.  Where does she get it?  And where can I get some?

Erin

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One Month

Nathaniel turns one month old today.  He’s definitely cuter than he was a month ago, with round limbs and cheeks and big blue eyes that stay open a lot more often.  I wonder what he sees.

Erin

P.S. His clothes aren’t roomy because he’s small; I got tired of struggling with newborn clothes, so he’s currently wearing a onesie for 3-6 months.  We now have a lot less screaming when he gets dressed in the morning.

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Small notes on small people

– Katherine is showing a bit more of a temper in the past week or two, and she’s learning that “No” from us gets pretty serious when it concerns the baby.  A loving older sister, yes, but a bit too vigorous.

– I’ve taken the kids on a few walks on my own, knowing that juggling them both is going to be a big part of my future life.  So far so good, though it does sort of feel like walking on eggshells: there I am, desperately hoping that Katherine will eventually return to my side instead of tripping up and down the scary bridge, I’m keeping a hand on the (pricey) stroller I’ve brought along to cart her home when she gets tired, and Nathaniel suddenly starts making unhappy sounds from deep within the backpack.  I may need to take a few more walks on my own, just to remember why other people associate walks with peace and quiet.  But hey, it’s exercise!

– I’ve heard from a classmate who landed a job this year, so I know it’s possible.  It also makes me itch to get back to work, so I was glad to have some quiet time to myself today while Sydney took Katherine out to burn off energy.  Getting ready to dive into the writing for another chapter.

– I’ve already started wishing for more time: more time to simply sit with Katherine in her room and roll the balls down the slanted floor, more time to plop on the couch and stay there as long as Nathaniel would like, more time for whole-family outings, more time for work, and definitely more time for sleep.  I would like very much to get more quality time with each kid, but they keep cutting in on each other so that, for now, I’ll have to take the slivers of bonding time that I get.

Erin

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spring

We had a beautiful sunny, warm spring day yesterday (though it might have felt more like it if we’d gotten sleep the night before …); here are some crocuses in University Parks:

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Katherine

Imperious in pink.

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A solution, of sorts

I’ve been ravenous recently, and have been really craving nuts to keep me full.  I know almonds are among the healthiest of the lot, but, frankly, they don’t taste nearly as good raw as pecans and cashews do.  But today I bought a bunch of almonds, coated them in thin, hot syrup of maple syrup, cinnamon, salt, and cayenne, and roasted them for awhile in the oven.  After they cooled I tossed them in carob powder.  They were delicious!  I’ll have to work on reducing the sugar and upping the spice content, but they were a definite hit.  Now, if I could just make nuts cheaper . . .

Erin

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UK Health Care

In our first few months here we’ve had a number of interactions with the UK’s health care system.  Several of you have asked how we like it, so I thought I’d share a bit about how we’ve found things so far.

One thing I knew I’d like in coming here is the emphasis on using midwives for “normal” women’s health and baby delivery.  I have nothing against OBGYNs, but I don’t quite see the need for specialists who are too busy to spend real time with you when experienced midwives may be able to provide more sustained care.  We saw that during our stay in the hospital, when we had the continuous help of one of the midwives on duty (she was great!), but then, when she wanted to bring in a doctor to double-check something, we ended up waiting many, many hours for him to make his brief appearance.  So yeah, midwives are good by me, as are other experienced technicians and such, particularly when, as is the case here as well as the US, there are constantly problems with being short-staffed.

There is also a tendency for you to get more in-home visits here, particularly after a child is born, which I think is a GREAT idea.  Unfortunately, again due to staff being short (and Nathaniel’s visit days happening to fall on weekends), we have been regularly asked to come up to the hospital for quick check-ups instead of getting in-home visits.  After wringing my hands a bit, I finally decided to just politely decline to do that and, when asked, explain that my child risked more exposure to accident and infection in hiking up to the hospital than he would in not getting check-ups every three days.

Throughout our stay I’ve found myself repeatedly declining care because I didn’t like the terms or felt that tests and such were not adequately explained to me before they were ordered.  We found the same to be true in the States with Katherine, but here we’re not surrounded by Ithaca hippies who may share our reluctance to simply follow orders.  I’m dismayed that there isn’t clearer communication between patient and care provider, and that one has to assert “no” before the options become clearer.  And, to be honest, I don’t like being put in a situation where I feel like my forceful side is being encouraged to come out; as my family members can tell you, I have plenty of that in practice already!

Since health care is institutional on a larger scale than I’m used to, I’ve found that the one major drawback to the system is the constant handing off of care from one doctor/midwife/nurse to another.  You are given files to carry around, and then each new visit with a new physician means a bit of reading on their part to catch up.  I like having my files; I’m one of those people who Googles terms until I have a good sense for the medical shorthand and the results of each test and visit–a much better sense, in fact, than I get during the visits themselves.  But what I find rather annoying is that having multiple providers simply shows me how subjective much of the medical care can be.  Some people hold rigidly to the guidelines; one midwife went into a panic when my pregnancy bump measured small (yes, Nathaniel, you’re too small at nearly 9 pounds!), and immediately took up a refrain of concern and the need for much further testing to be sure the baby was okay.  I could have wrung her neck, knowing how easily such sounds of alarm can haunt a pregnancy, even though, second time around, I was a much less anxious pregnant woman.  But I saw a doctor one week later who laughed, told me she herself had measured even smaller with her kids, and congratulated me on what she was sure would be a sizable baby.  Again, such different viewpoints leaves the individual patient with a lot of responsibility for making decisions about tests and who to consult–and when to say yes and when to say no–that I didn’t expect to be part of going to the doctor.

Yesterday I got a visit from a midwife.  We ended up having a very short visit, standing in my doorway, with her scanning my files and firing off questions.  Nathaniel was born facing the wrong direction, which makes for a more painful labor, so that earned a warm squeeze on the arm from her, as did the speediness of the labor (always funny what they find interesting when reading your case notes!).  A quick look up and down at me (I apparently just look healthy?) and she was off.  Today, on the other hand, we had a “health visitor” who stopped in for a longer visit to inquire how home life and the newborn and older sister were doing, letting us know of various children’s services in town, giving me good information about medical norms in the UK for early-childhood care, etc.  Very different visits, and both part of the UK’s attempts to provide lots of opportunities for early-childhood trouble to be caught, and for new parents or parents whose newborns are struggling to get advice and encouragement.  Thus far Nathaniel’s giving us very little to ask about, since he’s eating quite well (apparently 10 pounds on the dot today) and acting like a perfectly normal newborn.

Erin

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