UK Health Care

In our first few months here we’ve had a number of interactions with the UK’s health care system.  Several of you have asked how we like it, so I thought I’d share a bit about how we’ve found things so far.

One thing I knew I’d like in coming here is the emphasis on using midwives for “normal” women’s health and baby delivery.  I have nothing against OBGYNs, but I don’t quite see the need for specialists who are too busy to spend real time with you when experienced midwives may be able to provide more sustained care.  We saw that during our stay in the hospital, when we had the continuous help of one of the midwives on duty (she was great!), but then, when she wanted to bring in a doctor to double-check something, we ended up waiting many, many hours for him to make his brief appearance.  So yeah, midwives are good by me, as are other experienced technicians and such, particularly when, as is the case here as well as the US, there are constantly problems with being short-staffed.

There is also a tendency for you to get more in-home visits here, particularly after a child is born, which I think is a GREAT idea.  Unfortunately, again due to staff being short (and Nathaniel’s visit days happening to fall on weekends), we have been regularly asked to come up to the hospital for quick check-ups instead of getting in-home visits.  After wringing my hands a bit, I finally decided to just politely decline to do that and, when asked, explain that my child risked more exposure to accident and infection in hiking up to the hospital than he would in not getting check-ups every three days.

Throughout our stay I’ve found myself repeatedly declining care because I didn’t like the terms or felt that tests and such were not adequately explained to me before they were ordered.  We found the same to be true in the States with Katherine, but here we’re not surrounded by Ithaca hippies who may share our reluctance to simply follow orders.  I’m dismayed that there isn’t clearer communication between patient and care provider, and that one has to assert “no” before the options become clearer.  And, to be honest, I don’t like being put in a situation where I feel like my forceful side is being encouraged to come out; as my family members can tell you, I have plenty of that in practice already!

Since health care is institutional on a larger scale than I’m used to, I’ve found that the one major drawback to the system is the constant handing off of care from one doctor/midwife/nurse to another.  You are given files to carry around, and then each new visit with a new physician means a bit of reading on their part to catch up.  I like having my files; I’m one of those people who Googles terms until I have a good sense for the medical shorthand and the results of each test and visit–a much better sense, in fact, than I get during the visits themselves.  But what I find rather annoying is that having multiple providers simply shows me how subjective much of the medical care can be.  Some people hold rigidly to the guidelines; one midwife went into a panic when my pregnancy bump measured small (yes, Nathaniel, you’re too small at nearly 9 pounds!), and immediately took up a refrain of concern and the need for much further testing to be sure the baby was okay.  I could have wrung her neck, knowing how easily such sounds of alarm can haunt a pregnancy, even though, second time around, I was a much less anxious pregnant woman.  But I saw a doctor one week later who laughed, told me she herself had measured even smaller with her kids, and congratulated me on what she was sure would be a sizable baby.  Again, such different viewpoints leaves the individual patient with a lot of responsibility for making decisions about tests and who to consult–and when to say yes and when to say no–that I didn’t expect to be part of going to the doctor.

Yesterday I got a visit from a midwife.  We ended up having a very short visit, standing in my doorway, with her scanning my files and firing off questions.  Nathaniel was born facing the wrong direction, which makes for a more painful labor, so that earned a warm squeeze on the arm from her, as did the speediness of the labor (always funny what they find interesting when reading your case notes!).  A quick look up and down at me (I apparently just look healthy?) and she was off.  Today, on the other hand, we had a “health visitor” who stopped in for a longer visit to inquire how home life and the newborn and older sister were doing, letting us know of various children’s services in town, giving me good information about medical norms in the UK for early-childhood care, etc.  Very different visits, and both part of the UK’s attempts to provide lots of opportunities for early-childhood trouble to be caught, and for new parents or parents whose newborns are struggling to get advice and encouragement.  Thus far Nathaniel’s giving us very little to ask about, since he’s eating quite well (apparently 10 pounds on the dot today) and acting like a perfectly normal newborn.

Erin

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Thank you

One of my favorite activities over the past two weeks has been writing replies to the many, many emails, cards, and letters of congratulation that arrived after Nathaniel was born.  I love corresponding with friends and family, and I’ve had a great time slowly working my way through my inbox.  I am not particularly succinct in my replies (surprise, surprise), so I’m far from done, but I enjoy it far more than trying to get decent photos of the kids or any of the other activities that mothers take up in hopes of cementing for posterity these early fleeting newborn weeks.  It’s given me a chance to check in with friends I don’t hear from very often; I’ve even managed to elicit detailed updates from a number of my male college friends, who were probably too abashed by the sheer volume of my reply to feel that a simple “Life’s good.  Thnx” would suffice.

Thank you for giving me a chance to reconnect with far-flung aspects of my life while we try to get to know this new little one.

Erin

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Feb. 26, 2011

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Katherine’s words

Can you tell what kinds of words we’ve been working on?  Katherine can’t say her own name, but she does know:

– “caw-caw” (birds of all kinds)

– “goo” (goose)

– “quack quack” (duck)

– “waaaaan” (swan)

– “guuuuuw” (gull)

She practices happily on our walks in the parks.

Erin

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Reminders

Sydney looked back through our blog posts to remind me that, yes, Katherine woke this frequently, too, when she was new.  And, as he pointed out, I couldn’t do any cooking (or, for that matter, walking) for a good three weeks after she was born.  I distinctly remember buying the backpack at exactly one month postpartum, putting Katherine in it, walking carefully up the hill a little ways, and making banana bread (Katherine still in the backpack) upon returning home, marveling at this wonderful contraption that would keep the baby so happy and give me my arms back.

So, having returned from a two-mile walk with Katherine around the Christ Church Meadow (part of it with her in that same backpack, and part with her walking on her own), and planning on making a squash-blue-cheese-pecan-leek pizza for dinner tonight, I should be grateful for all the activity I am capable of right now.  I will try to work on that.  Just not sure what to do when you find yourself staring into newborn-blue eyes at three o’clock in the morning (the fourth awakening in five hours) and seeing not a shred of sleepiness in them . . .

In Sydney’s digging through the archives he said, “You also mention something in here about growth spurts?”  Ack!  I forgot about those!  Nathaniel should be due for one . . . about now.  And another in about another week.  Good to be prepared, I suppose.

Erin

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The sleep wall

We’re only a week in and we’re already having trouble fighting off the zombie state.  We’re trying to do things differently this time, making sleep a priority so that we don’t walk around in a haze for months . . . or years . . . but we’re starting out with a pretty significant deficit.  Nathaniel, like Katherine, decided to be born in the middle of the night, so we missed one night right off the bat, and we haven’t exactly had a chance to make it up.  His first week of sleeping hasn’t been stellar; although he’ll often do nice long stretches during the day (a couple of hours at a time), he rarely goes more than an hour-and-a-half between the start of one feeding and the next at night.  We’re hoping to change that, and soon!

Erin

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civilization’s fall

“If you’re looking for substantive conversation, you turn to blogs.”

According to a recent NYTimes article, people are leaving blogs and turning to Twitter and Facebook instead. But I guess if you’re one of those really serious types who wants to go on and on about stuff, then you can still use blogs. I hope there are some monastic communities left to preserve civilization again.

Sydney

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Another healthy appetite

The midwife just paid us a visit and weighed Nathaniel in at just over 9 pounds.  In the week since he was born he’s regained everything he lost early on and added another three ounces.  As my dad said, speaking from experience, “You’re going to see it in your grocery bills with these two.”

Erin

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Keeping us hopping

We’re just getting an inkling of what life holds when the kids equal or outnumber the adults.  I was changing Katherine this afternoon when Sydney came up the stairs, holding Nathaniel and standing in line until the changing table was free.  By the time I finished bathing one kid the other one needed it.  And when I was cooking I could hear Sydney trying to help Nathaniel burp while he helped Katherine read a book–and kept her from jumping on top of her brother.  We’re going to be busy with these two!  But so far we’ve been cooking and eating well, getting outside, and have kept up with laundry and other household errands.  The only things we’re short are quiet work time and sleep.  We’ll see what we can do about those.

Erin

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Katherine and Nathaniel

We’ve been keeping an eye on Katherine as she adjusts to the new arrival.  She was excited to discover he has feet when I uncovered them the other day, since that gave her another thing to name about him.  And she’s rapidly moved from point-and-name to trying to mother him.  When I was sitting on the couch the other day she brought in a small blue towel, spread it on the floor, and walked up to me with arms outstretched, rapidly opening and closing her hands.  The message was clear: give me the baby.  When I demurred and gave her a doll she proceeded to wrap the doll in the towel (when did she learn this?) and carry the doll around.  Upside down.  And flip it out on its head whenever she wanted to re-wrap it.  There was a reason why she had to make do with the doll!  She continues to bring him blankets (only once or twice has she tried putting them over his head), give him love pats, and want to watch when I change him.  We’re certainly keeping an eye on these displays of affection, but it’s nice that she has them!

Erin

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